I’m grateful to David Curlin (age 12) and his mom who both said “yes” to my request to share this with others. Their whole family has been integrating NVC principles into their daily lives and relationships, and David captured for me the essential aspects of us all “learning how to play with others” no matter what their age. I’m such a fan of play and fun and authentic connections! Thanks David!
Jean
*Do You Know How to Play to Play With Your Little Sister?*
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By David Curlin****
age 12
**** Is your sister a pest to you? She may not seem like much fun but, if given the chance, she can be one of the most enjoyable people you’ll ever meet! All it takes is you to start playing with her.
**** First, to play with your sister, you must have two essential pieces of equipment. These incredible objects are you and a sister who wants to play.
****Secondly, and most importantly, the “you” object must be cheerful and kind. However, do not fake these emotions! If you fake your cheerful kindness in a sarcastic way, your sister will give you the “man, you are such a bum” look, and transform into her slumped shoulders, pouty face position. Likewise, if you really cannot be cheerful, you, and she, will not enjoy your time together. Therefore, before you ask to play with your sister, consider how well you will be able to play with her.
**** Thirdly, when you ask her to play, do not barge in on her privacy! Chances are she will want to play with you but occasionally this will change. If she consents (remember, it’s a privilege to be able to play with her,) ask her what she wants to do. On the other hand, if you know that your sister will pick an activity that you despise playing, give her some choices to pick from that both you and she can enjoy. At times you may need to play some thing that you don’t like. Remember, the goal is to be with her, not to play your favorite activity.
**** Lastly, when you get tired, need to do something else, or when your sister is getting on your nerves, stop playing. An annoyed brother means a cranky, irritable (quick to get angry) brother, and sisters don’t enjoy that. Make sure you do not simply walk out of the room. Express your needs and feelings, give or think of a game that she can play by herself, and then move on to what you need to do. The important thing is to always be kind! Sisters adore kind brothers.
**** Playing with your sister may be hard for you, but remember, even when she doesn’t show it your sister loves and is proud of you, and she is always excited for a chance to play with you.****